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windinthemaples ([personal profile] windinthemaples) wrote2009-09-01 08:50 am

Alaskan Cruise: Our Mother/Son Adventure

Our mother/son Alaskan cruise experiences refuse to be corralled into a linear account. They are bubbling and collaging together into something more spiritual, abstract, and dreamlike. The thought of leaving so much untold bothers me, though, because my memory is so shoddy without a point by point blog entry to refer back to later. So...I don't know quite where to go.

You can start here on our Flickr site where I have 170 photos from our trip.

Here, from September 2006, is an entry where I talk about the same cruise itinerary that I took with Daniel in our more adventurous, childless days.

I was glad that I'd been on that same cruise before so I didn't feel as distraught when toddler-needs prevented me from doing certain things. Because of Graeme's sleep schedule and interests, we didn't attend any of the shows, restaurant seatings, or other cruising entertainments. There was no fancy meals, no live music, no late nights. The first night onboard set the tone when he conked out in the room for the night by 5:30pm, just an hour after we'd set sail! Luckily, the room was perfectly suited for long hours spent in it. It was comfy and spacious and had a private balcony to deliver the sights for me even when Graeme wasn't interested. When I wasn't taking photos or using my binoculars to scan the seas for whales, I was able to relax and read books or watch videos on my laptop. I had so much time to read, in fact, that I was over-the-moon excited to find books for 75 cents at a Salvation Army in one of the ports to restock my supply. There was a strange quasi-historical fiction bend to all of them, part interests, part sheer coincidence, that contrasted sharply with my ultra-modern surroundings.

Cruising Booklist
The White Queen by Phillipa Gregory
The Other Queen by Phillipa Gregory
The Raging Quiet by Sherryl Jordan
Elizabeth I: Red Rose of the House of Tudor, England, 1544 by Kathryn Lasky
The Goose Girl by Shannon Hale


The ship transported us where we wanted to go and became a comforting homebase for our adventures. The Market Cafe's anytime buffet suited our changing schedule and provided an endless supply of bread rolls, chick peas, sliced fruits, steamed veggies, and unremarkable curries. Room service delivered covered dishes and the makings for hot tea while I sat out on the balcony with my books and binoculars. In port, we sought out local coffee shops for quick meals and kept Luna/Lara/Odwalla bars in my pack for instant snacks. None of it was gourmet, or even good, but it was toddler-friendly, convenient, and totally acceptable.

Within a day, Graeme had learned his way around the ship. It was astounding, really, that he could find our cabin when there were hundreds and hundreds of identical doorways on floor after floor. He navigated the elevators (counting the floors as they showed up on the display) and the decks with ease. Quickly, his interests narrowed to a few key places: the video arcade (where a handful of driving simulators caught and held his attention), the Under 2 Zoo (where children his age could play with their parents--essentially an unused lounge room with an awesome view and some uninspiring toys to play with), the Photo Gallery (where we played the "can you find the picture of Mama?" game), the Promenade Deck (where we could run around the entire ship's deck), the Library (where children's books could be read), the Buffet (where every staff member knew and welcomed him), the Gift Shop (where a steep entrance ramp provided much running and jumping fun), and finally Home (the cabin, where Blue's Clues, Sesame Street, and Yo Gabba Gabba! are available 24/7 on Mama's laptop).


An Accounting of Actual Expenses of our 'All-Inclusive' Cruise--Highest to Lowest

$2991.50 Cabin and Cruise for Two
590.03 Pre and Post Cruise Hotel (with room service for four, ground transportation and internet)
309.00 Air Fare to and from Seattle (with free lap-seat infant)
300.00? Souvenirs and Gifts
293.00 Shore Excursions (Graeme, being so young, was free to take along.)
260.00? Tips for drivers, cabin stewards, shore excursion operators, porters et al.
90.95 Photos (2 8x10s, 3 5x7s)
72.00 Service Charges (Goes towards tipping all the crew members. Automatically charged.)
58.95 Internet Connectivity (Equalled thirty minutes online catching up on email.)
50.00 Cruise Ship Gambling (Bingo, where kids play free. 4 games. No winning.)
26.73 Gift Shop (Snack foods like granola and freeze-dried fruit at approx. $5 a pop.)
25.30 In Room Mini-Bar Charges (a canister of Pringles, a tiny bottle of Bacardi, 2 waters, 2 Cokes)
23.00 Video Arcade (31 driving games with Graeme in my lap.)
3.92 Postcard Stamps

Thankfully, I didn't buy any drinks (with the exception of my mini-bar raids) so that saved me hundreds of dollars. I also didn't, with the exception of that one weak moment when I signed up for a BINGO session, gamble. I never visited the spa or paid extra for nicer restaurant meals, pilate classes, or teeth whitening seminars. I didn't place so much as a bid at the art auction onboard. The souvenirs/gifts line item covers holiday and birthday gifts of my whale-loving friends for pretty much years to come. What I'm saying is, whoa, it could have been even worse.


What we paid for wasn't the cruise ship amenities, but the opportunity to see the otherworldly beauty of Southeast Alaska and to live on the sea, sunrise to sunset, moonrise to moonset, for seven glorious days. There are colors in Alaska that no camera can capture adequately--the teal turquoise brilliance of glacier-silted waters, the blue-black of stark fjord cliffs, the impossible blue at the heart of icebergs glittering in the sun. There are sounds that spoke directly to my soul--the huffing breath of a giant humpback whale, the cry of hundreds of seagulls cycloning over a bait ball, the eerily comforting sounds of a ship curving itself over waves, the creak of the metal fittings and paneled ceilings, the whine of the wind through the gaps in a door, the bone-finger tapping of wooden hangars against the inside of the wardrobe. We lived in a world of waves and mist, more often than not alone, experiencing a place where nature still is obviously in control, the landscape touched only occasionally by human intervention. We were in this giant metal ship, a trophy of human ingenuity, and yet that Sea Lady in her gray satin gown could have squished us like a pea at any point. How thrilling and appropriate, small and vulnerable, part of the cycle as we ought to be. One magnet I got from a local artist reads, "Life is Good. Death is not Bad." Somehow, living that plugged in did make the other side of the bargain of life seem accessible and good in some way I can't explain. The exquisite beauty of an embodied life as a transitory experience.

The animals! Oh, the animals! We had pods of dolphins crossing our bow, escorting us along at speeds of something like 18 knots. My photos never captured our companions more than just a grainy Big-Foot-esque bit of footage. They weren't there for the photography. When I looked with my eyes I saw incredible things and when I fumbled and fiddled with my camera, missed almost all. You must trust me then, that the dark sinuous form of humpback whales curving from air to water was breathtaking. Everyone on board had their own whale stories--chance sightings as we barreled along. A spout out the window at breakfast, a tail waving as they towel-dried their hair in the room, the sound of their breath in the dark at night. Private, personal visits to us--nothing showy, nobody stampeding to the rail to see them. Three sea gulls, flying low to our wake, kept me company for what seemed to be the entire cruise--always just off our starboard side, straight out from my balcony windows.

The shore excursions were such lovely opportunities to see more. In Skagway, we took an old narrow-gauge railroad forty miles up the pass to Canada, following the route of desperate goldseekers. In Prince Rupert, a First Nations boat took us out to see more whales in some remote and exquisite bays and shorelines. In Juneau, what I'd intended to enjoy as a hokey 'pan for gold' excursion turned out to be the chance to pick up gorgeous rocks along a wild and scenic creek bed and to pan its finger-numbingly cold sands for gold flakes--successfully.

Our trip was beautifully bookended by days in Seattle visiting Daniel's sister, Deborah, and our soon-to-be-a-teenager niece, Sequoia. Happy long summer days together--picking wild blackberries for cobbler, visiting the farmer's market, padding barefoot through their new home, laughing at the park as Graeme swings and says, "Weeeeee!".



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The fog and mist and rain was constant and absolutely magickal.

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Most of those pieces of ice were the size of a small boat. Here, in Tracy Arm Fjord, a glacier calves off into the sea.

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Skagway, a gold rush boomtown, still maintains a lot of its character and architecture.

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The cute. The cute!

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Gold Creek, in Juneau, where I hauled away at least five pounds of rocks and about ten flakes of gold. ;)

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Alaskan self-portrait. We were singing something, I think.

[identity profile] neva-butterfly.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 02:19 pm (UTC)(link)
It sounds like an incredible time actually, the beauty, the whales and dolphins, and quiet reading plus the world's most amazing toddler!

[identity profile] sugarmaplelife.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 02:40 pm (UTC)(link)
It was! It was hard to have Daniel away for two weeks, but having my own super-adventure made up for some of that loneliness and was really a chance of a lifetime. :)

[identity profile] aerialmelodies.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 02:19 pm (UTC)(link)
Sounds like a fun and magical time. :) I love the rain/mist photos you have... and the sunsets, the mountains, the everything. It looks so beautiful! I'm glad that Graeme had a fabulous time as well and made his own fun on the ship. A child's wonder is always something to be amazed by~

The whale experiences sound like what I would prefer. I love the tours because you do see whales, but having people shove you to see them is a bit much. I love the idea of personal visits that bring up real discussions, not just a sea of ooo's and aah's. Truly wonderful!

I love the last photo of Graeme and you. So cute! :D

[identity profile] sugarmaplelife.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 02:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes. On the official whale watching tour, we saw more whales and spent more time with them than just steaming past in our giant ship, but everyone would rush and push from one side of the boat to the other because there wasn't standing room at the rail for more than three or four people at a time. (And really, who wants to be the one to miss out because they weren't forward enough?) On the ship, it felt more like a "Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret." moment where I could stand on the balcony and peer out at the mist, sing or pray or just wait and hope for a whale-courier response. It was less spectacular that way, maybe, but more awe-inspiring when it happened and made more special by knowing that I might have seen one that nobody else did.

[identity profile] aerialmelodies.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 02:51 pm (UTC)(link)
So very true. Our tour in California was much nicer in that it wasn't crowded and for the most part people weren't pushy like they were in Boston (I had to pretend to be a small teen in Boston to get to where I could see anything!), but it still felt a little awkward when Ryan and I had this moment where words expressed nothing while other people were screaming and, well, not having the same sort of experience. Which is to be expected as everyone is different, but it was just so strange to see (or rather feel) the conflicting energies. I can imagine seeing a whale spout on the horizon in the photo you have of the rainy mists... very majestic and truly special. :)

[identity profile] greyeyedpixie.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 02:52 pm (UTC)(link)
Beautiful pictures!
I'm so glad that you two had a nice trip~ :)

[identity profile] mermaiden.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 06:58 pm (UTC)(link)
This made me cry with delight...thank you so, so much for sharing this with us, with your beautiful words and way of weaving them~ I saw it all in my heart. What intense, great beauty...what a blessing. I am so endlessly happy for you that both you and Graeme experienced it...I know Graeme may not remember truly...but he will with his heart~

*so much love*

[identity profile] sugarmaplelife.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 07:33 pm (UTC)(link)
I so wish you could have been with us for this trip. I was, however, able to haul home more tangible treasures than just photos for you and Jenn to get a sense of the magic there. :) {{{hugs}}}

[identity profile] mrsbrewer.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 08:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you so much for sharing your adventure. It sounds like it was so magical. There's something so grounding about the ocean, and I can't imagine what kind of energy one would get from spending seven days sailing the seas. Graeme looks beautiful, by the way!

[identity profile] lilith42.livejournal.com 2009-09-01 09:13 pm (UTC)(link)
It looks like you had a blast and the pics look absolutely amazing...can't wait till Russell and I can go to Alaska :)